When pregnant with R, the one thing I was looking forward to more than anything else was watching E become a sibling and indeed watching them together and their bond grow. I have to say it has so far been more wonderful than I ever thought possible. 12 months on and it’s almost like she has always been here. I did however also wonder how I would feel about sharing my time with E, the time we had 4 whole years to get used to being together. We have always been a team me and E, just us in the week and then three with Daddy. Quality time.
It’s funny how such an overwhelming worry can change so much, the situation arises and your feelings change almost unrecognisably. Both R and E love to have each other around and in actual fact given the choice most of the time they love to spend time with each other. I say choice, obviously R is only 12 months old so I cannot categorically say this is true for her but she looks for her sister everywhere she goes and is the first to be running towards her at the school gates, so I am making big assumptions on her part there! Only time will tell.
I do try though to make sure they know that I have time for them as individuals as well as together. In the week R and I have the school day to spend together and I have really enjoyed having this time to fully commit to her. As E is at school, more often than not bedtime is the time she gets doing her most favourite pastime of reading. We divide and conquer – or hope to – and each take one Little Lady after bath time, with the 4 year age gap we try to give E a little more time once R has settled for the night. At weekends E also has two hours of time when R naps where we try and follow her lead.
The time we do not spend alot of is with Me, Daddy and one of the Little Ladies. Except for this week. On Monday the Littlest Lady turned 1. We celebrated with a quiet morning just me and R with E at school and then Daddy joined us for the afternoon. We went to the park, just the three of us. A simple but wonderful trip. As the day was rather windy and cold we had the park to ourselves and she was able to run around and laughed the whole time. It really was wonderful to not only see the way she is growing up into a confident, funny Little Lady but to see the love for her Daddy and their bond together was amazing. That time was invaluable and I will treasure it forever.
Tomorrow E has to have an operation. It is a reasonably routine procedure, she is having a tonsillectomy, adenoidectomy and grommets. E is nothing short of excited in the hope it will finally put an end to the troubles she is experiencing and I am glad that she isn’t the least bit fazed. For a budding Doctor she is mostly just fascinated. But for me, it is a big deal and I want her to know we are there for her, she has our undivided attention. I miss her when she is at school, terribly. So today, she has a day for her, this morning we have a Mummy Daughter date then this afternoon she has Mummy and Daddy. My sister has kindly offered to spend some time with R and so E has us, the undivided attention that we all so love. And I for one, cannot wait.
They are such happy Little Ladies, both together and apart. I just really loves to stand back and take in the beauty of the right here and right now. Getting to know them as individuals is a privilege and an honour, every single day.
Forgive me if I’m a little quiet on social media today. I have very important plans xx
Linking with the lovely Katie over at mummydaddyme for her “The Ordinary Moments”