Usually I talk about how fast the month has gone and ask how on earth it is the 15th already. Yet as I sit and write this it seems like such a long time has passed since the last siblings post. The Bluebells have dissipated and the yellow fields have made way for green upon green as far as the eye can see. The sun has started to shine more (sometimes) and the need for coats is becoming less frequent. I absolutely love summer and this time of year gets me so excited to just jump in the car and go on adventures together at the drop of a hat without much need for planning with wellies and coats galore and maybe a picnic instead of hot flask or two, and of course it makes nipping out to take photos that little bit easier too without people moaning about being cold or the fact it’s too windy or generally that they would rather be huddled up inside with a cup of tea – maybe that’s me!
This months siblings photos were taken just two days ago on an impromptu after school trip to the local forestry center. I won’t lie I had great plans of heading to the Arboretum where our Me and Mine photos were taken to visit the poppy fields but as family life would have it the weekend just got away from us as we went to Manchester to celebrate Eddy’s birthday on Saturday and to be honest on Sunday we were doing jobs in the garden and after a manic day we just needed a simple one at home, and actually I am pretty glad because it turns out I absolutely love these.
After a quick change in the car from her school uniform, which is apparently exciting in itself, we took a stroll through the woods and for once I just sat back and watched them adventure together. They picked up sticks, admired dens that had been made in the trees, and had a little chat sat on a log with the most adorable cuddles and kisses that I will be forever grateful to have captured. We walked back through the forest to the deserted sand play area and I was able to sit and admire them helping each other and having simple fun not only side by side but together too. I have never seen wider smiles for a bit of sand and a slide, because they can do it on their own, they no longer need me to assist or hover and are happy to look over and see me there smiling back. This makes me happier than I ever thought it would, and proud, immensely and intensely proud.
I feel like they are getting to the age now where everything is that bit easier. At 6 and 2 they are well aware of the situation and are understanding so I have to wrestle less and explain more which totally works for me but also they just have so much fun together that it makes taking these siblings shots an utter joy. Don’t get me wrong they are still bickering like crazy and left in a room together at home out of sight for more than two minutes and one or the other is usually shouting “Mum Eva is doing this” or “Roma won’t let me do that” and it drives me crazy and makes me smile in equal measures as I reply with a simple “ok”. Unless of course there is actual screaming and then I have to wade in and stop Roma from pulling Eva’s hair/grabbing her clothes/sitting on her because they wind each other up and because Eva can’t help but nervous laugh resulting in Roma doing it all the more. Or Eva has taken some lego or other toy away and tried to slyly replace it like when Roma was a baby, yet that doesn’t wash anymore and instead she screams blue murder! Oh how I love watching their relationship develop.
When they are not bickering though they pretty much spend all their time together and Roma still absolutely idolises her sister. In everything they do you can see her looking her way to mimic her behaviour. I have been trying to make more videos recently because I just want to capture it all and in this one here of the butterflies we recently had, there is a moment (7 minutes 30 seconds in) that you see Roma copy Eva and I just smile from ear to ear when I watch. Being a sister myself (and a younger one at that) I am sure that we will get to the point that they are arguing because “Mum, Roma is copying me again” so for now I am soaking it all up while she is happy to take it as a compliment and laugh.
I remember in those baby days when people would say you have to get used to your “new normal” and I am starting to think that this is true throughout motherhood and not just in those first few months. The only true constant, apart from overwhelming love and pride, is change, I know that their relationship and my parenting of them will forever be changing and for now I am getting used to this new version of normal, which is pretty darn adorable if I do say so myself.
Sometimes worst enemies, sometimes best friends, always sisters.